Our relationship ended after she wrote me a letter telling me she thought I was the one for her, and I told her I wasn’t. Our focus even as good Christian kids was on each other and not on God and how we were to be obedient to Him in His service. The girl I dated for 15 months was a great girl and a strong Christian, but we were not equally yoked.
I had been called into ministry a year and a half earlier, and I knew that she would not give me the support I would need in ministry. The bottom line from that story is DO NOT WASTE your time, emotions, money, and most of all your heart on someone who is not a Christian. She completely withdrew from me, which really hurt. It seemed like the Lord was restoring our relationship. I don’t remember consulting the Lord on that decision either. She had a completely different way she wanted to live her life than I did when it came to serving the Lord.
Or does one of you want to be a lawyer and the other one wants to be an international missionary?
There are many things that go into being equally yoked.
I went off to college and told all my buddies, “I’m going to find a nice Christian girl and get married to her.” Well, I meet a girl my freshman year who was really sweet, loved the Lord, and liked doing fun stuff. I prayed about it a few weeks later, and God told me I had jumped the gun and that we should break up. I thought all I needed to do was get to know her and once I knew her pretty well that we could date with the idea in both of our heads that the end result would be marriage. The point I am trying to make here is that even when a guy is a strong Christian at a similar maturity level as you are, there are other factors that must be considered such as your views on spending and saving money.
For many of you, you may not be ready to be married. Enjoy the friendships with guys around you as brothers.
Let them know where you stand, and you will encourage and challenge them to grow as men of the Lord.
If they are not down with respecting you for taking this season in your life to grow more as a woman, then you need to pray for them that they may understand your heart and that you are letting yourself be prepared for your future husband.
When you are not equally yoked to a believer of a very close maturity level in your relationship with Christ and when you don’t have a very similar philosophy on how to live your life, then you should not enter into a relationship with that person.