In an effort to preserve sanity, I discovered very early that what is good and beautiful about me doesn’t require external validation.
If someone doesn’t “match” with me (online or in real life), it doesn’t mean I’m less valuable.
“Classically attractive” women have more difficulty online dating.
Given the competitive nature of the medium, some men assume if a woman is too attractive, she may be inundated with prospects.
And they are 73 percent more likely decide whether they are in love by having sex.
They’re the stepping stone toward finding whatever it is we ultimately desire.As a middling, I’ve discovered that my inherent greatness won’t always be universally accepted.To be fair, I’ve also learned this by being a black woman.It’s essentially the reason Google started hiring outside of the Ivy League: People who weren’t bred to think they can’t be wrong have an easier time failing with dignity and poise.To find success at dating, on the Internet or anywhere else, we must possess an almost foolish willingness to fail.I recognize the strength and sensuality of my curves. I laugh like a drunken sailor, and meet people with an open heart.I worry less about pretense or maintaining some mystique, and if a suitor doesn’t get me, I can chalk it up to math.The odds might be against me, but that doesn’t mean I don’t deserve to play the game.In case you were wondering, being unapologetically “ordinary” has implications beyond online dating.While there are hurt feelings and bruised egos, there’s resilience in the acceptance that everyone won’t always want what I am serving.Make no mistake, beauty is a currency, but it is merely one of many social currencies.