We have all heard about how easy it is for a man to start dating in his fifties and how there are plenty of women to choose from. Early 30’s and never been married – these women must have “daddy issues”.
Their desire to be with men 15-20 years their senior means they are looking for someone to take care of them both financially and personally.
What I’m hearing is, “Hey, I’m going to take some time off.
I’m not interested in anyone else long-term, I’m interested in exploring myself and who I am via new activities, experiences and adventures.” One can argue that’s one of the greatest ways to survive a spouse’s death.
When they tell you that they don’t want these things they are lying! Early 40’s with small children – although these women are closer to your age (not really) they are at a completely different stage.
They are raising small kids and are looking for someone to be a partner.
Rather they will be someone who will have realistic expectations of you and be accepting of who you are at this time of your life.I know for me, I can’t have that physical intimacy without emotional connection. But even then, you are connecting on a very intimate level, so don’t underestimate the fact that emotions may at some point become a part of this.You may not be emotionally available now, but you may become more emotionally available as more time passes after the death of your husband.And right now, taking care of yourself and enjoying yourself is an important new way to be responsible.Being “responsible” isn’t supposed to be punitive, it’s about building awareness and learning.They will want to grow old with you and have an age appropriate relationship with you.From my experience there are few men who are looking to date their contemporaries.You’ll discover activities you like, you’ll do those things, and you will meet potential new friends, love interests, maybe even flings.If you mean “fun,” with a wink wink, nudge nudge, that’s awesome too.Yes they do want you to help raise their kids and do it all over again. If you have money, well that just makes you more attractive. Women in their 50’s – these women are your age and there are many available in this group.(yes I do fall into this category) Chances are good that these women have older kids who are well on their way and don’t really want your input on their children.