What this research does is point to some fairly common alternative motivations for being on an internet dating site as well as highlighting people’s confusion about their own reasons.And as you negotiate the online dating jungle, you need to be aware that not everyone’s motivations are as pure (or as debased) as your own.James, 29, has only just started internet dating and is having a few teething troubles: “I’m finding it really frustrating at the moment, I’ve been sending out a few messages to women whose profiles I like and I haven’t been getting much response.
If you assume people’s motivations are always pure and simple then some aspects of this research seem directly contradictory and confusing.
Perhaps the men on there really are just scared to meet a real life woman.
That’s why they’ve got to rely on internet dating.” As in real life, there are a huge variety of people all looking for different things on internet dating sites.
How can 80% of people want to meet someone online, while 40% don’t want to?
If, however, you see people’s motivations as more complex and inherently contradictory, then perhaps the research is providing some very clear messages.