Honestly, online dating is incredibly appearance focused.A large majority of men won't even consider dating someone bigger than 'average' or many won't even consider someone of average size (according to their profile data). OG seems very self-aware and reflective, so I am sure she has considered this.I know in the past you said it doesn't bother you, but you make it a big point that it's. I've never met you so I don't know what you look like. You seem very focussed on it and unable to see past body size, please discuss how you perceive yourself and the negativity you associate around it with your counsellor.But I think you need to work on making yourself happy before finding someone else that makes you happy. OG, I mean this in the nicest way, I worry you are obsessed with your weight. He is smart, funny, 6'4" and looks like a 1940s film star.I don't mind if you tend to date fat girls, or really even if you get some specific pleasure from being with a fat woman -- but I don't need that to be the first thing you tell me about yourself. " It's announced as if it's supposed to reassure me that they aren't going to take one look at me naked and run, I think? Or maybe it's meant to suggest some kink; like to let me know that he wants to feed me cakes and watch me weigh myself? If you care more about my weight than I do, we're going to have a problem.
Even though I often felt overweight when dating, I just tried to forget about it.
There are specialist dating sites for heavier women because that is some men's preferences.
I am not sure how comfortable you would be dating some who wants to because you are fat though.
Personality, brains and conversational skills count for much more on a date than a slim figure in my experience.
I am honest about my size and my photos are current.